Remember when we excitedly announced that Avery slept through the night? Well, that memory is FAR behind us. We’ve been struggling the past month with Avery’s night-time sleep. He hasn’t slept through the night for over a month and it’s REALLY draining us. We’re both working full-time and getting a choppy and short night sleep is really putting a tole on us. Last night Avery was up multiple times and we had to feed him a bottle twice to get him to calm down and go to sleep. I found myself overly frustrated and irritated when he woke up each time, and looking back this morning I feel super-guilty because it isn’t Avery’s fault and he can’t help it. He’s just a baby.
Why isn’t he sleeping through the night anymore? Well, we had our thoughts. First, it was a growth spurt, so it was just a ‘stage’. From 4 to 5 months old, Avery didn’t seem to grow much. Then after he hit 5 months, it’s been like someone is feeding him Miracle Grow. He eats like a champ – 3 meals of pureed foods & cereal a day, and he gobbles down formula like he’s been stuck in a desert – 6 to 8 bottles (7 ounces) a day! So maybe he’s waking at night because he’s just extra hungry? He’s been gaining weight consistently (almost 17lbs now!) but really how long can this go on for?! I believed this was a ‘stage’ but after a month of it, not so much anymore. Maybe it’s something else?
Is he over-tired? I don’t think so, because he naps well – typically a long morning nap (2 hours) and 1-2 afternoon naps (1 hour).
But when it comes to going down for the night, each evening it seems his is more alert and feisty at bedtime. So maybe it’s our bedtime routine? It seemed to work well for months but maybe it needs to change now that he’s older? Our typical routine is something like this…
- 7PM – bath, bedtime lotion, pajamas
- 7:30PM – Nighttime bottle (7 ounces). We shut off the Nursery lights and leave the hall light on with the door ajar so Avery settles down.
- 7:45PM – Burp him. Give him a pacifier. Rock him while singing lullabies for 5-10 minutes.
- 8PM – Put him down.
This routine has become longer some nights because Avery squirms more and just doesn’t want to settle down. And now that he’s become so strong, he typically gives me a head butt or smack in the face a couple times. So, we tried changing up his bedtime routine by settling him down earlier (we used to give him a bottle later). No change. We bought a CD player for his room with a lullaby CD. No change. We tried some methods from the baby books I’ve read… again, no change.
So, we’re at a loss. I’ve heard horror stories from family and friends about how their kids didn’t sleep until they were 3 years old. And maybe it’s just Karma because I was quite a handful for my mother when I was a baby. Whatever the reason, we need to figure SOMETHING out before we lose our minds!
I’ve read up on the Ferber Method and I’m seriously considering giving it a go. I know it’ll be hard on Vinay though. He has a very hard time listening to Avery cry.
Any tips, tricks, or suggestions?!